“Any man can be a father, but it takes someone special to be a Dad” -Anne Geddes
Many fathers today are very different than from generations past. Decades ago, a father’s role was to earn a living so the mother could stay at home with the children. Many things have changed over the years, but I think this change is one for the better! Fathers today are caregivers. Importantly, they set an example for their children on how to be in the world and how to be with their peers. Fathers today make dinner, put children to bed, do laundry, listen and nurture their child’s social and emotional development now more than ever. Children need both parents, whether they are under the same roof or not, to support their children’s dreams and aspirations.
It is important to acknowledge that fathers come in all shapes and sizes. Fathers can be biological, a stepdad, a same sex husband/partner, a grandfather, an uncle, a neighbor or close friend. Not all children have a relationship with their biological father, but having someone in their life who plays this role is paramount and worth celebrating on Father’s Day!
Fathers are not just on the sidelines cheering their child along, they are truly running the race beside their child and have just as much to learn from their child as they can teach. I have 4 teenagers at home, and I asked them, “What qualities make a good dad? What should all fathers know?” Here are their responses:
Knowing how to be fun,
Being active with their kids,
Being positive, supportive, and loving,
Being affectionate, communicative, and caring,
Showing up for things that are important to kids, even if they don’t seem important to them,
Appreciating their kids interests,
Doing things their kids like,
Being flexible and understanding, and caring,
Not being overreactive,
Being able to show emotion and empathy,
Being relatable with their child.
Wishing all “Fathers” a very Happy Father’s Day! Thank you for being someone very special in your child’s life.
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